Got problems...? Welcome to the club !!

Yes! My friends, there is a club and the not-so-secretive undeniable fact is that every one of us is a member. Let us call it the 'I got problems club'. Membership is free and entry, for everybody, you are more than welcome, irrespective of caste, creed, sex, age, height, weight, deaf, dumb, hot-or-not, nothing matters, Entrance is from the front door. Now, what differentiates one from the other are our membership levels.

The first one is the “Frustu” association, and I know 99.999 % of people would have no doubt in obtaining the membership in to this. This is a bunch of folks, who love their loved ones from behind the walls, standing countless hours in front of the college tree, dying for just one full glance at her girl, and never dare to tell it straight to her! “aaj mere valee aayee nahee hain yaar” types. These people go through dire situations, fighting against their patience most of the time.

'Whiner' status group, these are also the regular faces at the club, who cry about everything that has ever happened to them since their birth. Such people complain about things from their chocolate milk not being chocolaty enough, about a hot summer day being hot, about the sun not coming out of hiding on a cloudy day, about a movie being bad because the seats were not cozy enough and the list goes on. If you are one of those who think that you are the most unfortunate person in the world coz your dad gave u a bike with unlimited petrol, a cell phone whose bill can feed an entire middle class family for a month but gives u a 100 bucks less than your friend, then you're going to feel like ‘at home’ in this club.

Then there are the 'Dejected', the bummed-out people of the society who believe life has never been fair to them and punish themselves for everything that happens to them. Sad, gloomy, mopish, shabby and with dark circles around their eyes and an unshaven face, they are not that hard to find. They look like devdas from the movies minus the dhoti and in rare cases minus the liquor. Lost pair and lost everything in life is what they believe and they can be a little vulnerable to suicide at times. If you have lost somebody or something and buy the idea that life has no other goal, then welcome rite in!

The “emotionally demure” are those who have problems but do not complain. These people accept responsibility for their actions. They do not look for excuses for their behavior. They talk about it to their closed ones. Some looking for some kind of a solution, some for help or support and some just to comfort and relieve their heart and the burden of living with the problem. People of this kind are relatively matured. They know when to talk and when to cry and they usually have good friends who listen to them. Still the signs of their troubled mind are not unnoticeable.

Finally, the “nonchalant variety”, carefree, happy and always cheerful to themselves and to others, no small problem will wipe 'the glow' off their faces and even during the worst of times their cheerful disposition always sees the light of the next day without a scratch. They know how to deal with their problems and how to do it without complaining. They live life, love life and learn from it.

BTW I feel I am the group owner of at least 3 of the above mentioned groups depending on situations doing full justification of Eric Bern’s theory of Transactional analysis. I welcome you too, feel free, I know you relate to more than one, o common ! This is a pretty long post. I know ! The main point of this post is that Life's all about choices, how you live your life now and how your life flows, in the future depending on where you chose to be. You got only one life, make it worth living., it's yours., no one will do it for you. Cheers !!!