Guys Rule ! I mean., Guy's Rules...

1) Yes, pissing standing up is more difficult than peeing from point blank range. We're bound to miss sometimes.
2) If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
3) ALL men see in only 16 colors, like windows default settings. Peach and pumpkin are just fruits, not colors. We have no idea what mauve is.
4) If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
5) If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
6) Sometimes, we are not thinking about you. Live with it. Don’t ask him what he's thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss topics like navel lint, Indian Monitory Policy, Future ICC tournaments.
7) Get rid of your pet. And no, it's not different, it's just like every other.
8) Shopping is not sport.
9) Anything you wear is fine.Really.You have enough clothes and too many shoes.
10) Your ex-boyfriend is an idiot, your brother and Dad probably are too.
11) Ask for what you want. Subtle hints never work. Please.
12) Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers.
13) A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. You need a doctor.
14) Your Mom doesn't have to be our best friend.
15) Foreign films are best left to foreigners.
16) Don't fake it. We'd rather be ineffective than deceived.
17) It is neither in your best interest nor ours to take the quiz together
18) You definitely lack in logic, accept it.
19) Anything, said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.
20) If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad and angry, we obviously mean the other one.
21) You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done- not both.
22) Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
23) We don’t normally take a leave unless ill or its urgent, and I was not the one whom you saw at the mall.
24) Columbus didn't need directions, and neither do we.
25) Don't cry, we really have no sympathy, we hate it !
26) The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.
27) No, we do not know what day it is. We never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar. Remind us frequently beforehand. Its Ok.

Comming up >>>

Rules which girls have to know about guys ..

Gauging Harsha

Yes, writing a book review is harder than writing it, I compleatly agree. Latest assignment of writing a book review to a book which I have not already read was challenging and pretty tough, after going through many sites and reviews of books, I thought I have learnt the straight drives and cover drives of it, What better book to choose to write a review on than a Book which had written introduction by Sachin,The Mastro himself . The Book brought two people whom I admired a lot, together. One Sachin Himself and the other Harsh Bhogle.

I couldn't resit my temptation to buy this Book at landmark, though it was costly. "Out of the Box: Watching the Game We Love" - By Harsh Bhogle, The subtle way he drives home the serious points is simply amazing.When Harsha first came into the commentary box, he brought with him a rare sense of excitement, a deep regard for the game's traditions and a profound empathy for its players. There was,the boy-next-door image attached to him too, which, once he had found his feet in television, made him the first superstar of the game in India who was not actually a player. Amazingly, after two decades Bhogle retains the enthusiasm and a child-like wonder that communicates itself to the listener. There are no fans like 12-year-old fans, some one once said, and Bhogle is a 12-year-old fan bringing the game into our drawing rooms without the cynicism or world-weariness common to journalists. This is remarkable. Nor is there word-weariness, if this book, the short pieces in which were written first for the Indian Express is any indication. The first of the pieces was written some five years ago. For a traditionalist, it is surprising that he begins with the Twenty20 - he was associated with the Mumbai Indians in the IPL - before moving on to Test cricket and assessment of the great players.

Harsha really writes well, and conveys to the reader a sense of immediacy, even urgency, as he comments on India's matches, looks forward or throws a backward glance, and occasionally gets personal (some of the best pieces, incidentally, like his column on the 1983 World Cup triumph). This is both the strength and the weakness of the book. The immediacy captures a moment, but occasionally suggests that the tyranny of the looming deadline has triumphed over the need for what he himself calls "weightiness". In a crisp summing up in the preface, he says, "While television rewards spontaneity, the written word demands weightiness. It is a completely different genre but one that is crippled by insensitivity to words."

Yet, there are enough gentle strokes of the brush, especially in the player portraits, that make up for this. Rahul Dravid, he says, "is like the musician plucking each note carefully, a scientist doing a titration where each drop matters. Sehwag might wonder at the need for it." The metaphors come thick and fast, and the comparisons are bang on target. I have two grouses, however. One is the felt need to occasionally cater to the lowest common denominator by dragging in Bollywood to make a point, and the other is the lack of insider stories from a man who has seen Indian cricket, indeed world cricket, from inside out. It would also have been good to have some of his early writings, from the days when he was less rushed and wrote with an innocence that was charming. But that isn't his fault. This is a collection of columns from a specific newspaper over a certain period, and such columns have their limitations. It would have been lovely, too, to have had anecdotes about his colleagues in the commentary box, and stories of the people he has interviewed with such a wonderful combination of "weightiness" and fun. Bhogle's best work is yet to be anthologised, and for fans everywhere like me, that is something to look forward to.

Dreams unlimited....

1. I dream of waking up with a six pack abs and hair that John Stamos would envy.
2. I want to wake up to a day with no chores and many friends to catch up and party with.
3. I dream of singing 'Tu Jahan' to my girlfriend.
4. I dream of having a girlfriend in the first place.
5. 'Papa kehthey hain' is my song. I want to be live up to it.
6. Though I secretly wish to be the world's most popular person (I don’t know for what), I would be satisfied if meeting or talking to me would bring a smile to peoples’ faces.
7. Frankly, I cannot help everybody in the world, but I would do everything I can to see all my friends always smile.
8. Reaching the top position and staying there is probably the toughest thing to do in any field, I want to be the second best in everything I do.
9. Sometime in my life, I want to be something different from everybody else and want everybody to be proud of me for being good at that.
10. The best compliment I want, would be "I trust you", especially if that came from a girl.
11. I am waiting for some special girl to walk into my life and change it forever, for the better.
12. I really like to learn. I wish I got teachers that really like to teach.
13. I want to be at a high position (second high) of a company and overhear my employees talk about me as if they worship me.
14. I really like to sing., I wish I had a better voice.
15. I am still waiting for my dream friends group with 2-3 guys and 2-3 girls who trust each other with their lives.., trust is the keyword.
16. I am still waiting for a lot of things to happen.

I like to dream, dreams give you things that you haven't got or don't get in your real life. Dreams give you motivation and inspiration. Dreams dig out things hidden deep inside your mind that you were not aware of. Dream as much as you can., enjoy your dreams. Treasure them. Dream on, dream on, Dream until your dream come true ...

Is it bad to be a lil selfish... ? I guess not ! I'm happy !

Just trying to figure out when I had written this post, which laid buried in the drafts till I discovered it today ! hmmm probably about 3 years back when people whom I "thought" as best friends flew away abroad, got married etc with out even calling me to say something... It seems I was really heart then, but now, In retrospection, I am not, this is probably called maturity I suppose!  Read on... 

This is a long post and something you probably never thought you would hear from me. This could change people's opinion about me, but I am true to my blog and to my friends. You deserve to know the real me but at the same time you have to understand that I am not a cold hearted robot. I am still the same Chichi u know me as. I am still learning the meaning of life and I have learnt that not everything is or can be perfect. Life is not a fairy tale, it is more like a horror movie with a lot of humor and a good ending.

Times change, many things change with time, people around you change with time. What do you do? Nature has provided you with the answer and it has worked for thousands of years. You evolve, you adopt. I have been in that process for sometime now, knowingly or unknowingly I have been evolving. Might sound a little unscrupulous, but in today's world the evolution principle of "survival of the fittest' has became really important and that is to live a little selfishly.

Be generous and give something to others and they will keep asking for more. Not just materialistic things but emotional stuff like your love and attention. Some people are never satisfied. Try to be a goodie-goodie and before you know they are the center of your universe and your life revolves around them. I am not advising you against this, just do it for those who really really deserve it.

As far as charity goes, I am not an extremely generous guy but I am not stingy or a penny pinching guy. I am a practically generous guy. I say give away when you have just enough for yourself. Yes you can argue against it saying all nice stuff but hey... that is how I think.

I was very nice to everybody and NEVER lost my temper, and what did I get in return? People took advantage of the fact that there is nothing that would make me angry and I would just shut up at everything they do. They made me wait long hours, never listened to me, played some real cruel jokes with me, took me for granted in everything. Friends can have that liberty with me all right but everything, EVERYTHING has a limit. I have had enough and I have evolved to the situation. I speak my mind out now. I express my anger, sadness, disappointment and annoyance when and where I need to. Sure some sparks fly but there is no fire. They would probably feel a little bad, but so do I and the best part is that these kind of things don't happen again.

Did I help everybody who asked for help? Yes, I did. Do I still do? Well, to most of them! Those few who were excluded during the evolution process are 'takers' and not givers. I don’t help others for something else in return. Least I can expect in return is appreciation. Don't even have to say thanks, there are other ways of showing it. I know some people who after doing a lot for them shamelessly ask me what I did for them. They deserve a slap rite across the face but my moral ethics hold me back. Gratitude is what separates humans from chimps and those who don't have it should be picking fleas from others backs and eating bananas.

Friends, good friends, best friends. I never had these 'classifications' all my life, until recently. All my life I treated all my friends the same, the only difference being, spending more time with a few than others, which I couldn't really do much about. I treated everybody like my close friends. God gave me this gift, that people easily confide in me. I have always mistaken that trust to be a sign of them being my close friends and it hit me hard when I knew it wasn't true. Call somebody your best friend and the other person sometimes doesn’t even want to talk or meet you coz their priority is somebody else, that could be one of the worst feeling you can have.

You get what you give as far as your "love, attention and care for somebody" goes, I say give what you can get back. I have given too much attention and care to a few people. I don't regret it but it is sad that I didn't get back as much.

Live life ( jussssssst a little selfishly) .... Love life ( a lot selfishly ) !!

Got problems...? Welcome to the club !!

Yes! My friends, there is a club and the not-so-secretive undeniable fact is that every one of us is a member. Let us call it the 'I got problems club'. Membership is free and entry, for everybody, you are more than welcome, irrespective of caste, creed, sex, age, height, weight, deaf, dumb, hot-or-not, nothing matters, Entrance is from the front door. Now, what differentiates one from the other are our membership levels.

The first one is the “Frustu” association, and I know 99.999 % of people would have no doubt in obtaining the membership in to this. This is a bunch of folks, who love their loved ones from behind the walls, standing countless hours in front of the college tree, dying for just one full glance at her girl, and never dare to tell it straight to her! “aaj mere valee aayee nahee hain yaar” types. These people go through dire situations, fighting against their patience most of the time.

'Whiner' status group, these are also the regular faces at the club, who cry about everything that has ever happened to them since their birth. Such people complain about things from their chocolate milk not being chocolaty enough, about a hot summer day being hot, about the sun not coming out of hiding on a cloudy day, about a movie being bad because the seats were not cozy enough and the list goes on. If you are one of those who think that you are the most unfortunate person in the world coz your dad gave u a bike with unlimited petrol, a cell phone whose bill can feed an entire middle class family for a month but gives u a 100 bucks less than your friend, then you're going to feel like ‘at home’ in this club.

Then there are the 'Dejected', the bummed-out people of the society who believe life has never been fair to them and punish themselves for everything that happens to them. Sad, gloomy, mopish, shabby and with dark circles around their eyes and an unshaven face, they are not that hard to find. They look like devdas from the movies minus the dhoti and in rare cases minus the liquor. Lost pair and lost everything in life is what they believe and they can be a little vulnerable to suicide at times. If you have lost somebody or something and buy the idea that life has no other goal, then welcome rite in!

The “emotionally demure” are those who have problems but do not complain. These people accept responsibility for their actions. They do not look for excuses for their behavior. They talk about it to their closed ones. Some looking for some kind of a solution, some for help or support and some just to comfort and relieve their heart and the burden of living with the problem. People of this kind are relatively matured. They know when to talk and when to cry and they usually have good friends who listen to them. Still the signs of their troubled mind are not unnoticeable.

Finally, the “nonchalant variety”, carefree, happy and always cheerful to themselves and to others, no small problem will wipe 'the glow' off their faces and even during the worst of times their cheerful disposition always sees the light of the next day without a scratch. They know how to deal with their problems and how to do it without complaining. They live life, love life and learn from it.

BTW I feel I am the group owner of at least 3 of the above mentioned groups depending on situations doing full justification of Eric Bern’s theory of Transactional analysis. I welcome you too, feel free, I know you relate to more than one, o common ! This is a pretty long post. I know ! The main point of this post is that Life's all about choices, how you live your life now and how your life flows, in the future depending on where you chose to be. You got only one life, make it worth living., it's yours., no one will do it for you. Cheers !!!